Memory problems are one of the first signs of Alzheimer’s disease and other types of dementia. As the disease progresses, worsening memory problems make it difficult to complete everyday tasks, such as putting clothes on in the right order, following a recipe, or using a microwave oven. Imagine trying to figure out your next step when your brain can no longer help you. What would you do?
If you’re caring for a loved one experiencing memory loss due to Alzheimer’s or another progressive dementia, you’re familiar with the challenges and range of emotions that come with the disease. There are medications that can lessen symptoms for some people with certain dementias, but there is no cure for these progressive diseases. At some point, your loved one may need more help than you’re able to give. To help you recognize when the time has come to consider a move to memory support, look for the following signs:
- Forgetfulness — It’s normal to forget names but recall them later. Or enter a room and momentarily forget why you’re there. It’s not normal to forget the name of a close family member. Or forget why you entered a room and have illogical thoughts about why you’re there. If someone you care about is becoming increasingly forgetful, they may leave the stove on, or the water running, or forget to take their medication. A move to memory support can provide the assistance they need to stay safe.
- Repeating questions or stories multiple times — People in the early stages of memory loss may repeat themselves frequently. If you notice a loved one asking the same question over and over again or telling the same old stories repeatedly — but they can’t remember new information — look for other signs of memory loss listed here. If you notice several signs, it may be time to move to memory support.
- Difficulty planning or problem-solving — Changes in the brain can make it difficult to develop and follow a plan — preparing a meal, for example. Working with numbers may also be difficult. If your loved one can’t balance their checkbook or stay on top of monthly bills, they could get into financial trouble or become targets for a scam.
- Problems finding the right words — Occasional trouble recalling the right word when speaking is normal, especially if you’re tired or stressed. But a pattern of not being able to express thoughts is a sign of cognitive decline. Pay attention if your loved one loses their train of thought when talking, stops mid-conversation and has no idea how to continue, or substitutes the word they’re after with something similar, such as “ringer” for the telephone or “mouth cleaner” for toothbrush.
- Confused about time or place — Someone with memory loss may get lost while driving a familiar route. They may forget where they are or how they got there. They may even think they’re in a different time or place. It’s heartbreaking when someone you love doesn’t recognize you. It’s dangerous if they become so confused they start to wander and get lost. A move to memory support can provide a safe, secure environment where help is available 24/7.
- Misplacing things — If a loved one is experiencing short-term memory loss, you’d expect them to have difficulty remembering where they put something. In addition to losing things, another sign to be aware of is putting things in odd places. They may hide keys in the fridge, put milk in a closet, stash medications in old shoes, or place their glasses in the microwave. Check favorite hiding spots and look for other signs that it’s time to make a move.
- Personality changes — Being irritated by changes to their routine is normal for older adults. Lashing out, acting aggressively or pacing a lot, especially later in the day, is abnormal behavior for older adults and potentially dangerous for caregivers. Other common behavior changes in people with dementia include feeling suspicious of or threatened by others for no reason and having difficulty sleeping through the night. With memory support, caregivers with specialized training in how to manage mood or personality swings can help your loved one feel understood and supported.
- Caregiver burnout — The demands of caring for a loved one with memory loss can be physically and emotionally draining. If you’re juggling caregiving with work and family responsibilities, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and stressed out. If you’re anxious about your ability to cope, feeling sick or depressed, a move to memory support can give you both peace of mind.
Orchard Inn: An innovative, small-home model for memory support.
The small-home model for assisted living and memory support at Orchard Inn is unique in southern New Hampshire. Four specialized households accommodate just ten residents each, and our small size allows team members to get to know each resident on a personal level.
Every member of our dedicated team receives specialized dementia training to learn the latest techniques in communicating with and caring for people experiencing any form of memory loss. Residents can relax in a safe, intimate environment where support is available 24/7. With an easy-to-navigate layout and engaging activities tailored to individual interests and abilities, Orchard Inn is a place to thrive.
Orchard Inn at The Baldwin is here to help. To speak with a member of our team or to schedule a personal tour, please use our contact form or call 603.699.0100.